Don't everyone fret, I'm still a virgin lol. Last night I had an interesting conversation with J of a sexual nature( prudes exit stage right). It was nothing too heavy but we got a chance to find out where the other one was coming from. What this conversation brought to my mind was the great debate on "waiting to give up the cookies." Historically, I have never had a "waiting period" and to be honest that has been the problem. In my 31st year I have come realize that I'm not emotionally built for casual sex. I have tried the whole "friends with benefits" thing and all I can say is: epic fail. So I got to thinking about why I was being celibate. I am holding out for a relationship. Instead of asking, "Where is this going?" after my perm has been sweated out, I'll ask first....that way I can make a more informed decision. I'm really feeling J and I don't want this to be another stop on my proverbial trail of tears....here's to thinking smarter in 2012!
You go!!!! Some ppl think celibacy is for quitters but if you constantly hit & quit...alllllllllll the effin time....where is that gonna get you? This isn't directed to you...but I'm just saying. I can't do the friends w/benefits either. I don't know how people can....but sex/love is supposed to be...(key word SUPPOSED) about something deeper...a connection of sorts. Some people don't see it that way. But it is refreshing when you can meet someone that is willing to wait & understands where you're coming from. It's like you wanna scream but do it internally 'YES!! They're not gonna push or leave...yay!'. lol....
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