I know me and my friends have running jokes about the part in the movie, "The Help" where Abileen tells the little girl, "You is smart, you is kind, and you is important." Yes, I cringe over the grammar, but the message is powerful. Abileen knew that the little girl was being raised in a family that was not going to nurture the little girl she was becoming. So Abileen made sure she had positive reinforcement. Well I am going to be my own Abileen. Each morning, I look at that mantra and remind myself that I am an intelligent woman, I am a kind and loving person and I matter.